Hi everyone!!!
I wanted to talk a little bit about our ability to agree and disagree. The advantages and disadvantages of the different levels of agreement and the conflict that arises when people who agree to disagree just won’t.
Recently I became involved with a somewhat distant old friend that saw something on my blog and loved the idea behind it, but disagreed with the theory. Even though he had agreed that we both had our own opinion of the issue he began to get angry with the fact that I was experiencing better results than he had ever experienced and started to tell people that I was in fact not being truthful about my success, that is why I went ahead and posted my pictures the other day. I was going to wait to do that until I had reached a higher percentage of fat loss, but wanted to quell the issue, and I did.
My issue is not that I was being challenged, I am up for that. The issue is that because our philosophy differed he would not accept the possibility that we could both be correct. I am a firm believer that my “right way” might be very different from yours. I also know the truth of what is going on in my mind and body, so if I post an opinion, it is coming from the most trustful and honest source that I know…ME.
If we were all alike, and if we all agreed on everything, life would be rather boring. I don’t want to ever offend anyone, discourage anyone or provide information that negatively affects any of you. I just want to be held accountable for my own journey by sharing it with you. The suggestions I offer to you and the routines and disciplines I follow and adhere too, are all very new to me and at the same time, are working for me. If your results differ and if you are finding my post to be incorrect, let me know and let’s discuss it. There is a ton of information out there and lots of different resources available to help you begin your own journey. I am writing this blog, also, as a way to help share with people that might become inspired to join me as I begin and live with a healthier lifestyle.
Every day I am incorporating new ideas and strategies to aid in my performance. This week I have begun a workout regimen that includes body-weight training. I have supervised help with this. Next week I am adding kayaking and mountain biking to this lifestyle. I am using no supplements besides (also new to my program) protein powder. I am following strict guidelines provided to me by my doctor to insure I receive the proper nutrition through diet alone. I am off all medication excluding the occasional anxiety medication and am taking less and less of that.
If you want to discuss my methods, or if you want to debate the value of my opinion, please feel free to. I want to discuss this, it helps me, and I intend it to help you too.
This applies to ALL aspects of life. Just because someone disputes your opinion, just because someone disagrees with your lifestyle or if someone has made a comment that has offended you… Talk about it, be willing to agree to disagree and see it as an opportunity to respect and love without restriction. I love my friend anyway, we have discussed the issue at length, we have met over coffee to talk about where we both are on our journeys respectively and we are now closer because of it. We are also going to begin biking together next week (He approved this post btw). Don’t write someone off from your life because they have a different point of view, there is much more to life than that one issue, no matter how important that issue is to you. You will find life very lonely if you can’t compromise your need to be right for the sake of keeping someone in your life.
Love to you all and smile, it’s a great day to get outside and breath the fresh air!!!!
Great read. Very close to home too.
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