Handle your function...don't let it get you down!

    I have been blogging about food, exercise and depression for most of my blogging career. One thing I have not really talked too much about is how to respond to negativity from other people.

   We cannot control what other people say and do. They are free to destroy us with their words and actions if they so choose. What , then are we to do? How can I possibly deal with the redneck calling me a Faggot for working in a hair salon with a bunch of women? How can I handle a client complaining to me when they don’t like their new style that I took the time to create just for them. How can I not be hurt when someone that says they are supporting my “journey”  tells total strangers that they are sick and tired of hearing me talk about how many points are in everything I eat? How, How, How? WOW!

   I am a magnificent person! I deserve to be happy. I have the same fundamental rights as everyone else on the planet and no one should abuse me, call me names, make fun of or criticize me (and I am not fooling anyone)!  The truth here is, we need people to hurt us. We need to see that most of time, when people do these horrible things, it is because they are trying to fill a void in their own lives. Maybe they are unhappy with their own job and are jealous because I am a licensed professional. They could be acting out because they are transferring their anger at their own situations onto me because I appear to be weaker. Remember, just like a dog smells fear, bullies sense insecurity.

  Maybe I should try and halt the negativity before it starts. When a client comes in upset, maybe I should smile at them first and show them my concern for their happiness instead of being frustrated with their choice to be unhappy. Maybe the next time I get called the F word, I will respond with  “think what you want , I get to hang out with hot chicks all day buddy, where do you work”? I should also learn to practice patience with the people that are not quite ready to take the “journey”. I don’t think this person was really unhappy with my excitement about my weight management, I truly believe she was unhappy with her choices with food that day. Then I need to let it all go. There is no use losing sleep over something I cannot control!

PLEASE NOTICE THE PATTERN I AM TRYING TO CREATE HERE!

1.       Smile

2.       Respond with humor if the situation allows

3.       Always be patient

4.       Forgive the person and rationalize the instance that caused the pain

5.       Free yourself of the wasted time.

  Try and use common sense instead of anger when someone hurts you. Be the bigger (hearted) person. Love others the way you were intended to love them. Set an example for our children, so that when they grow up they can set an example for their kids!

   Have a great night folks! And Smile before you fall asleep, maybe you’ll wake up smiling too!
(This post does not apply to bullying in our school system, or to children. This is my opinion of adults mistreating each other)